In our consumer-driven culture, we tend to place most responsibility on the encoder rather than the decoder. If something is not understood we blame the teacher, preacher, or leader rather than the pupil, constituent, or follower. We think of the hearer as a customer, placing fewer and fewer demands on the recipient and more and more responsibility on the speaker. The motives here are good ones; we want to speak clearly and connect… we want people to understand and act, thus we want to do all we can to be understood.
I wonder if by placing most of the responsibility on the speaker we end up settling for shallow understanding in the hearers. Borrowing from the Parable of the Sower in Matthew 13… do we miss an opportunity for seed to take root and flourish by not demanding more of the hearers?
In my experience as a learner/follower/disciple, my understanding goes deepest when I am forced to engage, when I have to go back and ask for an explanation. Whether learning a lesson from a teacher, boss, or even God, the deepest understanding results from seeking explanations. I know that I am truly a disciple when I am asking, “Explain.”
I’ve had the same experience on the other end as a teacher/leader/preacher/mentor. Students, congregants, and employees seem to only really get it when they are challenged. I know that I truly have a disciple when I hear them asking, “Explain.”
Crowds want simple, bite-sized, easy-to-digest morsels. Disciples crave heaping plates of challenge, and demand explanations to deepen our understanding.
So how then do you convert your hearers to disciples?
ReplyDeleteLet me rephrase: what can the encoder do to get the decoder to engage? Or are you saying it is out of the encoder's control?
I think the interaction is not as simple as a Seller/Buyer engagement. I think it is more like Parent/Child interaction. The Child does not always fully understand/accept everything the Parent says. The Parent does not stop at just saying/teaching. The thing is that the encoding here is not just words. It is supplemented by modeling, action, behavior, lifestyle, belief... I think Jesus' disciples followed Jesus not merely because of His words but also through His behavior and action which aligned with what He was saying. i would theorize that the effectiveness of the encoder is directly proportional to the decoder's perception of the encoder's spoken and unspoken message. I am rambling now...